Half way point!!

Well I am half way done!!  Thank you for supporting me through this and if you are just joining this is a great time to catch up on the last 15 days!!

Day 15: Be firm when needed but not harsh!

During our Love and Logic parenting adventure we have learned ways to be firm while taking ourselves out of the problems that don't belong to us.  (ex. how much children will eat, when a tantrum will be thrown)  I know the importance of the child owning their own problem and fixing it.  I have had some conversations today during my staff meetings with G man that are appropriate today!  He and 3 other boys play together during our weekly staff meeting, well today G man came in crying twice over little spouts with the others.  The first time I asked him how he felt and how he was going to make the situation better.  He looked at me crazy and then said he was going to go ask if he could play with them and then share his new sunglasses.  I told him that sounded good and I hoped it worked for him.  The second time he came in he was crying because he was hit by a ball in the hand.  (By this time I am running thin on patience... I have to keep Little miss in the meeting with me and then he keeps interrupting!!)  I asked what was wrong and  he told me then he said I just needed to say that we are sharing and playing now!

Although I have seen success through this program and trust this program works I still revert back to my impatient self.  I try daily and make this apart of  my daily prayer to put my self aside and do this for them.  This program isn't all just awesome experiences, as matter of fact Jim Faye (founder of love and logic) has a saying that L&L parents make their children uncomfortable so that they are learning real world consequences now instead of later.  I didn't understand this completely until we were in the toy section at Wal-mart... do I even need to explain the rest!! :)  G man gets an allowance based on the chores he completes (a dime per chore) which comes out to about $5 a week.  Well after he tithes and pays taxes (real world learning) he ends up with $3.  After trying to get him to save to get something big he screamed and complained about having to have a bigger toy!!!  My husband picked him up and walked him to a corner in WM and told him that he could stay here until he was done with his fit.  (he stayed in timeout with him)  G man was very uncomfortable as were we because he was SCREAMING!!  But he hasn't thrown a fit like that since and he knows that Daddy means it when he says no in public.  G man still hasn't saved any of his money and most of his cheap toys have broken but we believe that is ok because he is still learning that it is better to save for something better then to have to keep buying broken things!!